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Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them ...
is like a [wise] man which built a house, and digged deep, and laid the foundations on a rock:
and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it:
for it was founded upon a rock
(Luke 6:47-48)

Let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.
For other foundation can no man lay that is laid, which is Jesus Christ
(1 Corinthians 3:10b-11)

If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3)

Forgiveness
Articles, YouTubes, Books, Websites

Two Parts to Forgiveness: Positional and Transactional   |   General Articles on Forgiveness   |   Forgiving Sexual Abuse 

YouTubes and Videos   |   Bible Study Helps   |   Books, CDs, DVDs, etc

Forgiveness: Quotes and Comments   |   Forgiveness: Some Scriptures   |   Bitterness: Articles

Bitterness: Quotes and Comments   |   Bitterness: Some Scriptures   |   Foundations: Index

 

"Forgive:  to grant free pardon for or remissions of (an offence, debt, etc); to absolve;
to give up all claim in account of; to grant free pardon to (a person); to cease to feel resentment against"
[Women by Grace]

"Not always an easy thing to do - or ask for - forgiveness is nevertheless a fundamental part of a healthy Christian walk.
If the Lord Jesus was prepared to die such a cruel death to forgive us for the sin of rebelling against God the Father,
then surely it is not such a difficult thing for us to forgive those who have wronged us in much lesser ways"
[Elizabeth McDonald, November 1997]

"Jesus tells you to forgive those who wronged you when you pray, thereby avoiding bitterness and resentment.
But that is very different from granting the wrongdoer forgiveness. You do that only when he repents.
Forgiveness of others must reflect God's forgiveness; He forgave you when you repented"
[Jay Adams, 1997]

"It is wrong to hold others in bondage, when we ourselves have been forgiven" [Mary Van Nattan]

 

 

Two Parts to Forgiveness: Positional and Transactional

The Two Parts to Forgiveness  (1997/2002)

Positional Forgiveness: between the offended person and God / Transactional Forgiveness: between the offended person and the offender.

Forgiveness  (1997)

"Forgiveness. What a wonderful word! Yet, what does it mean? How do you grant forgiveness; and, for what? As much as Christians talk about forgiveness, one might think they could tell you all about it. Yet, there is hardly one in a thousand who can give sound, biblical answers to the questions above..."

Since God Withholds Forgiveness, Can We?  (No Date)

"We need to make an effort to understand God's forgiveness of us if we are going to forgive others in a way that reflects God's forgiveness. Sadly, in recent decades the word forgiveness has taken on a connotation of 'psychological freedom' instead of freedom from sin, and this has brought some confusion about the whole concept of what it means to forgive..."

 

General Articles on Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the Key  (07 October 2011)

"We are going to look into a subject that is often controversial and difficult: It is the subject of forgiveness. ... Forgiveness within marriage ... Forgiveness within church fellowships..."

Forgiveness  (2002)

"Most of us at some stage in our lives have found it hard to forgive someone who has deeply hurt us or a loved one near to us. We sometimes hear a person say, 'I will never forgive.'  And so, the question arises: should we forgive others, and if so, how, if our hearts are filled with hurt or anger?..."

I'll Forgive When He Proves He's Sincere  (October 2002)

"Christian forgiveness - take note that the Bible says that if he repents forgive him. [One reason] why Christians have such a hard time forgiving is..."

Forgive as God Forgave You  (1997)

"Christians are the most forgiven people in the world. Therefore, we should be the most forgiving people in the world. As most of us know from experience, however, it is often difficult to forgive others genuinely and completely. We often find ourselves practicing a form of forgiveness that is neither biblical nor healing..."

Love Your Enemy  (1972)

"It was in a church in Munich that I saw him - a balding, heavy-set man in a grey overcoat, a brown felt hat clutched between his hands. People were filing out of the basement room where I had just spoken, moving along the rows of wooden chairs to the door at the rear. It was 1947 and I had come from Holland to defeated Germany with the message that God forgives..."

Forgiving Others As We Are Forgiven  (No Date)

"We have been meditating over the past few days on the need for divine forgiveness, but it is time now to focus on the fact that the Lord Jesus adds a condition to this statement. He says we can only ask God to forgive us our trespasses when we are willing to forgive those who have trespassed against us..."

Forgiving As Unto Christ  (No Date)

"It is wrong to hold others in bondage, when we ourselves have been forgiven.  In Matthew 18, Jesus told the parable of the man who owed his lord ten thousand talents. When the man had nothing to pay and was to be sold along with his family, he begged for mercy and his lord had compassion on him and loosed him and forgave the debt. This man then went out and found a man that owed him a hundred pence, a far less amount..."

Spiritual Warfare: How to Forgive Others - Part One  (No Date)

"Wounds can fester into infections if untreated. That's exactly how unforgiveness works. Whatever was done to us pierced our skin, but if we keep prying it open and looking at the wound, it won't be able to heal... Instead, because it is continually exposed to the dirty air, it becomes infected. That infection in the spiritual realm is welcoming to unclean spirits, which fester the wound even more. If something isn't done, the person ends up facing demonic harassment and torture, and becomes a very bitter and unhappy person..."

Spiritual Warfare: How to Forgive Others - Part Two  (No Date)

"Unforgiveness is a form of hatred, which is actually a lack of love. If you are bitter with somebody, then the love of Christ is not flowing through you. So how do you solve that problem?..."  [EMcD Caveat: We do NOT recommend the book by Gloria Copeland (please see here for info on WordFaith) mentioned favourably at the end of this article.]

Unforgiveness: Spiritual Poison  (No Date)

"Unforgiveness is the single most popular poison that the enemy uses against God's people, and it is one of the deadliest poisons a person can take spiritually. It causes everything from mental depression to health problems ... Jesus gave us very important commandments to follow; one of them was to love one another, as He has loved us (John 15:12). Love is the exact opposite of unforgiveness, envy, jealousy, hate, pride, and bitterness. You can't truly love somebody and hold bitterness or unforgiveness against him or her at the same time..."

What Does the Bible Say About Unforgiveness?  (No Date)

"The Bible has quite a bit to say about forgiveness and unforgiveness. Perhaps the most well-known teaching on unforgiveness is Jesus' parable of the unmerciful servant, recorded in Matthew 18:21-35..."

 

Forgiving Sexual Abuse

Harbouring Unforgiveness  (09 September 2009)

"I am not of the persuasion of some that we are obligated to forgive everyone that's wronged us. Jesus said that we forgive 490 times, but ... [He] made that conditional. That you forgive if he comes to you and confesses that he sinned. In other words, if he's repentant of the sin. There is no indication that we forgive people that have not turned from their sin..."

YOUTUBE:  Bible Questions: Harbouring Unforgiveness  (06 September 2009)

"This week's Bible Question: Can someone harbouring deep unforgiveness from childhood be saved? And how do you minister to someone with unforgiveness and bitterness in their hearts?"

CD:  When Forgiveness is a Sin  (2009)

"The Bible does not teach that Christians are to forgive everyone. In some cases it would be a sin to forgive. See what the Bible says and free yourself from the bondage of modern psycho babble."

 

YouTubes and Videos

YOUTUBE:  Bible Questions: Harbouring Unforgiveness  (06 September 2009)

"This week's Bible Question: Can someone harbouring deep unforgiveness from childhood be saved? And how do you minister to someone with unforgiveness and bitterness in their hearts?"

 

Bible Study Helps

Women by Grace  (No Date)

"God is a forgiving God...  Jesus taught us to forgive...  Forgiveness is...  Unforgiveness will..."

 

Books, CDs, DVDs etc

All the books listed below should be available from either the publisher or usedbooksearch

The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict  (Second Edition 2002, Baker Book House, P.O. Box 6287, Michigan, USA)

"Among other things [this book] explains: (1) How to use conflict as an opportunity to please and honor God;  (2) The differences between negotiation, mediation, arbitration, litigation, and Christian conciliation;  (3) Why Christians should resolve disputes in church and not in court;  (4) Why you can trust God to help you even in the most difficult conflicts;  (5) When it is appropriate simply to overlook an offence;  (6) When and how to assert your rights;  (7) How to confess wrongs honestly and effectively;  (8) When it is necessary to pay restitution;  (9) How to change attitudes and habits that lead to conflict;  (10) When it is appropriate to confront others regarding sinful behavior;  (11) How to confront others in an effective manner;  (12) When and how to ask other people or the church to intervene in a conflict;  (13) When and how to forgive others and to achieve genuine reconciliation;  (14) How to negotiate just and reasonable agreements;  (15) How to deal with people who refuse to be reasonable..."

Forgive! As the Lord Forgave You  (1987, P&R Publishing, Phillipsberg, New Jersey, USA)

"Sometimes granting forgiveness seems out of the question - you've been betrayed by a friend, hurt by your spouse, maligned by your boss, or offended by someone in your church. You find yourself saying things like:  Sure I'll forgive him, but not until I've made my point;  Why should I let her off the hook? She doesn't deserve forgiveness;  I'd like to forgive him, but I just hurt too much inside;  Forgive? Not after all the things he's done!  [The author of this book] approaches the issue from a different perspective: What does the Bible say about forgiveness? What are the benefits of forgiving others or the consequences of refusing to grant forgiveness? By shedding light on six aspects of the forgiving process, Pastor Morison shows vividly what forgiveness involves and how crucial a forgiving spirit is to our walk with God and our relationship with others."

CD:  When Forgiveness is a Sin  (2009)

"The Bible does not teach that Christians are to forgive everyone. In some cases it would be a sin to forgive. See what the Bible says and free yourself from the bondage of modern psycho babble."

 

 

 

If thou, LORD, shouldest mark iniquities, O Lord, who shall stand?
But there is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared
(Psalm 130:3-4)

Be ye kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you

(Ephesians 4:31-32)

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you;
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses

(Matthew 6:12)

 

 

 

Thus saith the LORD,
Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way,
and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls
(Jeremiah 6:16)

 

 

We recommend the articles, videos and books/DVDs etc we have included on this page, but please note that we would not necessarily agree with every single word contained therein; neither can we necessarily vouch for the websites or periodicals from which these articles are taken, or any other articles or materials by the same authors, or any groups or ministries or websites with which they may associated, or the beliefs of whatever kind they may hold, or any other aspect of their work or ministry or position.  Likewise, our recommendation here of specific websites/pages does not necessarily imply that we endorse every aspect of that group or ministry.

Elizabeth McDonald     https://www.bayith.org     bayith@blueyonder.co.uk